There’s so much power in asking the right questions.

I often ask leaders to reflect on these four questions to reflect on the way they’re showing up.

Ask yourself:

• What am I demonstrating?
• What am I encouraging?
• What am I reinforcing?
• What am I tolerating?

This forms my DERT model. (Yes, it’s a great model with a pretty terrible name!)

I invite you to reflect on these four things for yourself. Regardless of any title you may or may not have, you are a leader.

You’re the leader of your own life and the way you show up matters.

What do you want to…

Demonstrate

How do you want to show up? What example do you want to set for everyone around you?

Encourage 

What ways might work effectively to influence others and get more of the outcomes you really want?

Reinforce 

How often do you catch people doing things right and provide immediate specific praise? The more you do, the more you’ll see that behaviour.

Not Tolerate 

What things are you no longer going to tolerate? As they say, whatever standard you walk past is the standard you accept. Yes, pick your battles. Then make them count.

If you want to hear more examples about Lauren’s DERT model, read on here.

Let me know your thoughts below.

And if you’d like support with your leadership practise feel free to download a copy of my eBook 5 Keys to a Positive, Energised, High-Performance Culture here. 

About the Author – Lauren Parsons, CSP, AS

Lauren is a keynote speaker, author and consultant who’s passionate about helping busy people discover little-used techniques to boost their energy, vitality and performance. She’s the only speaker in the world to focus on lifting BOTH workplace wellbeing and productivity.

Awarded NZ Keynote Speaker of the Year and Educator of the Year 2023/24 by the Professional Speakers Association. Lauren is a sought-after international speaker, one of only a dozen Certified Speaking Professionals and the only Accredited Speaker in New Zealand.

TEDx speaker, Author of Thriving Leaders Thriving Teams and Real Food Less Fuss, Founder of the Snack on Exercise movement and host of the Thrive TV Show. With over 20 years’ experience, Lauren integrates her wellness and business background to help leaders find the sweet spot between boosting both wellbeing and productivity.

Described as unforgettable and life-changing, Lauren is a dynamic and highly-engaging presenter, and master story-teller who will have you laughing, moving and learning in a memorable way. Whether it’s virtual or in-person, you will leave Lauren’s session feeling uplifted and empowered to create positive change, today!

Based in the Manawatu, New Zealand, where she lives with her husband and three children, Lauren can often be found hosting dinner parties, playing board games, running, reading or getting out in her gumboots to walk the paddocks. She travels regularly to speak at conferences and in-house and specialises in helping leaders create positive, energised workplaces where people thrive.

Check out all the goodness at Lauren’s “Free Stuff” page at www.LaurenParsonsWellbeing.com

Ways to connect with Lauren

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Thanks for reading this article, I appreciate your time.

To find out more about how I help individuals and organisations thrive, feel free to check out the Workplace Wellbeing or Helping You Thrive pages.

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